JEFF

Jeff's girlfriend contacted me around January 12th & asked me a bunch of questions about him & what really went down.  So I told her everything.  She acted sweet & concerned.  Really wanted to know things.  Was going to confront him.  He had told her that he had been single since December 2013 (he was living with me).  He moved in with her & her two kids within a month after moving out.  Well she contacted me a couple of days later & was a total bitch.  Said I was trying to come between her & Jeff.  That she loved him with all of her heart, that they were going to get married on his birthday in July in Washington state (where he's from), that though she couldn't have any more kids, that they were going to use a surrogate, that he totally loved her kids.  I asked her about his gaming (he's a serious gamer & wanted to develop video games).  She said that she though that they were stupid, that he hardly ever played them anymore because he wanted to spend all of his time with HER, etc.  Well she pissed me the hell off.  First of all....Jeff had told me the same things about getting married, the surrogate, etc...though it was going to be with me.  If he did give up his gaming for her...I think it was stupid of him to do & he will end up regretting it.  Giving something up that he loves for someone?  I just don't see it.  So I asked her if he had told her about certain things & she said that she knew all of those things from "Day 1."  Yeah sure ya did.  I basically told her that she was trying too hard.  There was no way that he would tell her everything that went on in his life that fast.  The first time we talked, she told me that she hadn't even met his mom until Christmas...though they live in the same city.  He's a mama's boy, so that was weird. She said it was a bit awkward. So the next time she talked to me & was trying to piss me off...she said that his mom was SO happy about them getting married & had wondered what took him so long to ask her.  Are you kidding me??!  For one, his mom wouldn't ever say something like that. Anyway...she ended up calling me a bitch & promptly blocking me on Facebook (where we had been talking).  Oh, I also asked her if she would ask him if he would talk to me....he told her that there was nothing left to say (that was before the 2nd conversation).  Well...she did what he was unable to do...she totally got me over him.  He told her exactly the same things he told me.  He lied about so many things.  It took her being a bitch to make me realize what an ass he is.  Regardless of what she knew, I told her more.  So she will always wonder what he's lying about & what he isn't.  The fact that he allowed her to talk to me like that was another thing that made me realize that I meant nothing to him.  So I wrote him an email (who knows if he ever read any of my emails) & told him a few things.  Well the next morning....lo & behold...I was unblocked on her Facebook page...just to see a picture she had put up of the two of them.  Yeah nice.  Well I'm sure she thought I was just going to flip out.  So I did the opposite.  Told her how good they looked together, that I was happy for them, that I wouldn't bother them anymore, etc. etc.  Then I sent an e-mail to him saying pretty much the same thing.  Then let it go at that.  That was on January 16th.  I had no plans on every contacting him again.  I thought it was ironic..that it was exactly 5 months to the day that he moved out.  Well his mom & I were planning on staying friends...but she hadn't answered any of my texts or messages since around the beginning of November.  So it was whatever.  Then I get a short note on FB from her on January 25th.  Saying that I had really crossed the line by doing what I did & to never contact her again.  She then blocked me on FB.  I had her e-mail address, so I sent HER an email saying that she hadn't contacted me for over 2 months..then she comes out with that?  That all I did was tell Jacque (his gf) the truth & that if Jeff had been honest with her from the beginning, it would have never came to that.  That if hadn't acted like such a jerk after he left me, that I would have gotten over him much faster, etc.  That I had just wanted to be friends with him...like he said we would always be.  That she would prefer his lying over my telling the truth.  That what was worse, she KNEW that he had been seeing someone else & didn't bother to give me a heads up.  That they saw me as weak..and they were wrong.  I sent the exact same email to him, so she couldn't say that I said things that I didn't.  I didn't call her any names, wasn't a total bitch.  Told him I wouldn't have contacted him again if it wasn't for his mom contacting me.  Jacque blocked me from her FB again...which is cool.  I was done & haven't e-mailed or tried to contact him for a month now.  I don't know who I was even with for 2 years.  Don't know what was a lie & what wasn't.  If he loved me or if he didn't.  He lied about so many things that I don't even know what to believe.  He totally fucked me up for 5 months.  I was close to suicide a few times.  Though I wouldn't have gone thru with it....I have kids & I couldn't leave them like that.  I was still hoping that he would change his mind.  I know....pathetic.  I let him make me feel that I could never trust anyone ever again.  I still have trust issues...but I can't judge all guys by him.  Though the guys I have talked to on line since then don't exactly inspire my faith in men.  So I still have my guard up & probably always will to an extent.  Live & learn, right?  I won't say I don't think about him sometimes, that I don't miss him & what I thought we had, that I don't miss talking to him on a daily basis & having him as my best friend.  But it's not as often as it used to be.  Maybe one day I won't think of him at all.