FINALLY BACK!

Well here I am once more...can't believe that it's been 5 months since I last posted. Last I wrote, I was going to Vegas..I had a blast!!! But then came back to reality and July was a hellacious month. I wanted Dave back sooo bad and he wouldn't even consider it. I had a friend that I was writing to (in prison) named Arturo and he was helping me thru things. I will basically just run down the past few months. I went to visit Arturo numerous times in August, September and October...after I knew that there was nothing left of Dave and I. I will never totally get over Dave, but without trust, there is nothing. I hope that we will always be friends. I really cared about Arturo and was falling for him...I still care. But they moved him farther away and I haven't seen him since November 5th. I thought that that was bad, but hell, that was nothing. I haven't gotten a letter from him since December 4th and no phone calls since the 12th..where he asked me not to leave him. OK, so where is he? In all the time we have written...he has never just fell off the face of the earth like this. I miss him. Going to the mailbox every day and not getting anything from him...well I can't handle the disappointment anymore...so plan on only checking my PO Box once a week...on Sunday nights...so I only have to be sad and hurt then, instead of every friggin' day. I sent a letter out to him yesterday asking WTF? It was basically a good-bye letter..I just feel that if he isn't putting the forth the effort, then there's no use. I told him I would always be here for him and love him. I just need to learn to let it go now. Guess it shouldn't be too hard. It's not like I've never had someone leave me before. No, I'm not feeling sorry for myself. Just stating a fact. I filed for divorce in October (we had been legally separated since April). In mid-November, Dave had a change of heart again and wanted to try to make it work. His heart really isn't into it though. Our divorce was final on December 8th. Can't believe that I'm divorced. Anyway, after that, I asked Dave if he could ever get Gracie (gf) out of his system and he said no, so that was the end of that. No sense in trying. No sense in confusing the boys more. We get along and are still friends for the most part. It's still hard for me when he goes out of town to see her for a weekend. Maybe it's because they are so happy and in love. I really don't know. I'm just trying to focus on me now...and of course, my boys. I love them so much! They are doing pretty well. Phillip is already taller than me and he's 12! I'm 5'8! Plus he's in a size 13 shoe and it's almost too small! My other two are doing well too and they all had a fun Christmas.:)
I need to find a job again soon...which I don't look forward to...though it may be good for me to get out of the house. The depression still kicks my ass from time to time, but just have to deal with it. I take Celexa for it and it helps a little, but not a lot. I haven't really lost anymore weight...about 60 lbs altogether, but have been about the same for the past 3 months now. The Holidays didn't help much. So yesterday, I started exercising for 1 1/2 hours a day instead of just an hour. Plus have tried to cut out carbs again for awhile..will see how long THAT lasts!LOL
My sister, Cindy..who I haven't talked to in almost 3 years...had a baby girl on August 26th and named her Jasmine Rain. I hope that Cindy is a better mom this time around. Her oldest daughter, Justine, will be 18 next month...my mom has custody of her.
My mom has to go in for surgery today for kidney stones...she had to have emergency surgery on the 5th...they took her by ambulance to a hospital 60 miles from here. They put a stent in next to her kidney, so she would be able to pee...her kidneys had started to shut down because a stone is stuck and is too big to pass. They couldn't do major surgery then, because she is on blood thinners. So she went off of them a few days ago and has the surgery tomorrow and then can go back on blood thinners. She has been so tired and run down lately and that's just not like her at all. I'm soooo worried that it may be something worse. When they did the CAT scan that found the stones, it also showed that she had some calcium build up in two arteries going to her heart.:( So she has a stress test scheculed for January 12th and will see from there. She just turned 61 at the end of November. I just want her to be OK!
Almost 2 weeks ago, I started talking to a guy on-line and he's from the same town that I am, but he moved away a lot of years ago. He lives about 2 hours away and is in the process of getting a divorce from his wife. They have been married for 34 years! He says there are just a lot of things wrong. It's nice talking to him and we have a lot in common. It's nice having a friend that I can really talk to and I hope he doesn't bail on that friendship. I've had enough of that crap. He's 52...which is different for me...I usually go for younger ones. Even as friends. Arturo is 30. Right now, I'm just enjoying having somone to talk to who doesn't judge me.
I'm determined to make 2011 a really great year. The past 4 years have pretty much sucked...though there have been good moments too. Not every year is all good or all bad. I just want a few years where there is more happiness than pain and sadness. Is that too much to ask???
Well guess that's enough for now. It's good to be back and getting some of this off my chest.